Vibrational Matching takes the concept of positive thinking to a feeling level. Each of us offers a distinct vibration for every desire we have. Our dominant vibration is what attracts our experiences, and is determined by the combined frequency of our thoughts, beliefs, and feelings regarding a particular desire.

We may be offering positive thoughts by saying, "I am looking forward to meeting a great guy and I know someone is out there for me," but deep down, we're really feeling, "I am tired of waiting and I really doubt that I will meet someone. All the research shows it is practically impossible to get married after 'a certain age.'"

Positive thinking is the first step to attracting our desires; however, believing in ourselves and our ability to create what we want results in positive feelings. The emotion attached to a particular desire, positive or negative, has great influence in creating a dominant frequency that either attracts or repels our dreams.

2. How long will it take me to find my desirable vibrational match?
-Anxiously Waiting, Austin, Texas

Your desirable vibrational match is just around the corner. He or she will show up when you are truly “ready” to receive him or her into your life.

When you are in a “waiting” mode, you are placing your happiness or peace of mind “on hold” by giving attention to what you do not have. This keeps it just beyond your reach. The more attention you give to what you do not have, the more pessimistic your thoughts become, which lowers your vibration. You may meet potential dates but none of them may be desirable by your standards.

You will be a vibrational match to your desires when you take yourself “off hold” and truly believe that the right person for you will arrive in perfect timing. Get happy without a partner. Feel peaceful without a partner, and know that he or she is on the way.

3. What happens if I use these techniques and the man I attract isn’t what I want?
—High Expectations, San Francisco, California

Then it is time to make a new “Wish List,” clarifying what you want, and turning your attention toward your new desire. For instance, if he has cats and you’re allergic to pets write in your “Wish List”: My ideal mate’s living situation is compatible with me in every way. Remember to ask for “your highest good and the highest good for all concerned.”

4. What’s the difference between a desirable vibrational match and just any vibrational match?
—Inquisitive, Honolulu, Hawaii

We are always a vibrational match to what we are currently attracting. This means we are giving attention through our thoughts (consciously or unconsciously) to what we desire or what we fear.

Vibrational Matching is the process of purposefully raising our vibration in order to attract what we desire such as an ideal mate rather than just a mate. It is the deliberate intention to energize what we want by aligning and unifying our thoughts, beliefs, and emotions in the direction of our desires.

5. Why is it that men always leave me?
—Lady in Waiting, Peach Tree City, Georgia

Your question implies that you feel rejected, and that you are questioning your own self-worth. Allow the men in your life to make choices, without judging them and without judging yourself. As you become an allower, your feelings toward yourself will be more positive, strengthening your attraction power for your desires.

When our partners leave they are not rejecting us; they are simply saying yes to something else in their life. If someone is not ready to receive the love you can offer, then they will not stay.

To raise your vibration, consciously stop focusing attention on men leaving and visualize them staying. As you begin to believe in the possibility of having your desires your dominant vibration will shift to support you in creating all that you want.

6. My sister and I made our “Wish Lists” and put good thoughts around our desires. She met a great guy—I’m still waiting for a date. Why? What went wrong?
—Ticked Off, Salina, Kansas

As long as you are in a waiting mode you will continue to be at a standstill. Shift your focus from waiting, longing, and wanting someone to make you happy, to having fun. As you let go of trying so hard, and enjoy being with yourself, you will attract your desires.

7. My fiancé and I get along fantastically, but his son and I have a lot of conflict. What can I do to hang on to my guy without going nuts?
—Going Crazy, Reading, Pennsylvania

First of all, be aware of your language. When you are “hanging on” to something you are not coming from a place of strength, thus you cannot be a vibrational match for your desires. Shift your focus to the quality of your relationship rather than holding on to your partner.

Set intentions to create a loving harmonious relationship with the son, one that is in the highest good for all concerned. Allow yourself to be inspired to create something different than what the past might dictate. Stay open and allow yourself to be guided by your intuition. Let your actions be inspired.

8. What factor does timing play in meeting your desirable vibrational match?
—Tic Toc, Santa Monica, California

The stronger and more positive your dominant vibration is about a particular desire, the more quickly you will become a vibrational match to it. When you are open to your highest good, the timing will be coordinated perfectly with all of your desires.

9. All of the guys I attract end up being “emotionally unavailable.” This is certainly opposite of what I desire. How can I change this?
—Vibrating Heart, Chicago, Illinois

You are holding “emotionally unavailable” in your vibration for one of two reasons:
a. You are emotionally unavailable and/ or
b. You are focusing your thoughts on others being emotionally unavailable.
In either case, you can change your vibration by focusing your attention on what you desire, individuals who are emotionally available. Be aware of thoughts that are not in alignment with what you want to create, and practice shifting them in the direction of your desire. Set the intention to be a vibrational match for your desire, and you will become more conscious of when you are creating in the direction of what you do not want, rather than what you do want.